All praises are due to Allah (SWT), the Lord, the Creator, the Giver and Taker of life. Verily, it is Allah who is our provider from the time we are in the cradle until the time we will be buried in to our graves.

We praise him; we worship Him alone, and seek his protection and refuge from our own sins and our evil selves, while hoping for his absolute mercy.

I testify that none has the right to be worshipped except Allah (SWT) alone, and I testify that the Prophet Muhammed (SAW) is his last and final prophet. Even though our condition is in opposition to his guidance, his very guidance will be shining and illuminating the hearts of those who seek it from now until the Day of Judgment.

One of the main pleasures of life, the greatest yet most neglected blessing Allah (SWT) has bestowed upon us is none other than our own children.

We live in a world where we are neglected by our children and at the same time neglecting our children.

I do not have to go over the current circumstance, but because of the limitation of time, will only provide a basic advice that might be useful to help bridge the gap between us and our children.

We always stress our own rights, however fail to realize what are the rights our own children, whether our children may be toddlers, teens, or above that in age, we must review our relationship with them, because of the fact that we will be accountable for them in the sight of Allah.

Allah (SWT) specifies in chapter 66 of Surah Tahrim, verse 6 of the Holy Quran:


O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allâh, but do that which they are commanded.


Our beloved Prophet (SAW) warned those who have been made responsible in front of Allah (SWT): “Every one of your (people) is a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them. “

Therefore Allah (SWT) has created us and has made our children the sheep, and we as the Shepards are accountable for their actions.

Therefore, let us begin our relationship by offering them proper Islamic advice, let us slowly build the bridge of communications so that we may be those who their problems and offer them counseling.

We must not allow our own children, the future sons and daughters of Islam, to counseled by anyone else, unless the person they go to is closer to Allah (SWT), and he upholds the sunnah of Rasullullah, the Prophet Muhammed (SAW) in his life.

We cannot hold our children blameworthy, if we are careless about the way they live, the friends that they have, the shows and movies they watch, the rap stars and celebrities they worship and follow so closely, the way they should have been following the Prophet.

However, now that this is going on, we must use the faculty of wisdom, to remind them of their existence on this dunya, and why Allah (SWT) sent them here. We must permit them to sit in the circles of knowledge, spend more time in the masjid, read more books, find ways for them concentrate on their studies at school, teach them to have goals of success in this life and in the hereafter.

The Prophet (SAW) said: “Upon death, man’s deeds will (definitely) stop except for three deeds, namely: a continuous charitable fund, endowment or goodwill; knowledge left for people to benefit from; and pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously pray Allah, the Almighty, for the soul of his parents. “

I pray to Allah (SWT) to allow us to increase our relationship with him and with our children. I pray to Allah (SWT) to allow our children to follow the footsteps of the Prophet and his Sahabah, I pray to Allah (SWT) to shower love, mercy, blessings, and compassion upon our homes in this life and our graves in the next.