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Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad
people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements
are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for
good statements (or good men for good women), such (good people) are
innocent of (each and every) bad statement which they say, for them is
Forgiveness, and Rizqun Karîm (generous provision i.e.Paradise).
(24:26)

O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person
(Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from
them both He created many men and women and fear Allâh through Whom you
demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs
(kinship)[]. Surely, Allâh is Ever an AllWatcher over you.
(4:1)

O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their
will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take
away part of the Mahr[] you have given them, unless they
commit open illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honourably.
If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allâh brings
through it a great deal of good. (4:19)
"O People, it is true that you have
certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over
you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah's
trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them
belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women
well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed
helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one
of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste." The last
sermon of our beloved Prophet Muhammed (SAW)
According to Islamic law, the husband should be
aware that he is not a "master". His wife is his committed partner and
helper. In today's world, and from different cultures our influences and
what we learn is that our wife should be a genie (jinn), who can raise
the children accurately and take care of the husband and children from
washing the clothes, ironing, making food, and cleaning ect. In some
countries, she should be doing a job, and earning money also. And
whenever the husband is upset, who can say one word, for example "I will
give you divorce" and that will lose her confidence forever.
The husband forgets that the wife is his
management, and after a couple of hours he becomes normal, but leaves a
single poison cell in his wives' ear, and according to the Qur'an the
husband and wife is not two but they are one, or one of his family
members, for example his mother, sister, brother, or father, who are not
satisfied with the husband and wives' personal life which has nothing to
do with them, but the husband who wants to show his family that he is
very obedient towards them but he really does not care, and he would
destroy his life, like his children and wife, how much of a fool has
Satan made him to destroy his life. These matters should be balanced as
Allah (SWT) has taught us in Surah Rahman, whatever responsibilities
Allah has given towards the mother or towards the father or brother and
sister should be balanced without destroying the husband's personal
family life.
And the wife like the controller of the house
and trustee and management, who really gives backup towards the husband
and children, of his kids and wealth and his worldly matters. And if she
loses her confidence, how will she perform her job properly after she
heard this word out of the husband's anger, and she starts to think that
she will be out anytime from the house if she is unable perform anything
and she will feel helpless.
Today most of the husbands keep there bank
accounts and money separate from there wife, and they hide it. And some
of the husbands shows off and lies a lot in front of his wife, and never
shows there original condition and the family life as a result collapses
because of lies, and to show the wrong status. And then, everyone starts
to blame the wife, for example, she is a wrong person, or a over
spender. Instead if the husband is honest and shows everything openly
such as his income, Allah (SWT) has created the wife like a blank
recording tape, the way the husband wants to show her she adopts that
way. If one is not a practicing Muslim, and the wife was a practicing
Muslim, then most of the time the husband tries to make her lose her
hijaab and modesty, and teaches her to become "modern" and to move with
society and friends. The wife is not a decoration piece, to show off to
non-muhrims who have evil eyes and jealousy. From the day one if one
asks his wife to wear a hijaab and fear Allah, guaranteed that husband
will live the most successfully, and she will be able to raise the best
children for you, regardless of income, status or who you are. But if
the husbands tries to move her towards the "modern" society, the
opposite of Allah is only Satan (Shaytan), and the husband is making his
life partner Satan (Shaytan), and naturally if Satan (Shaytan) is
raising the children, then automatically the children will become Satan
(Shaytan) also. Do not forget, a single child is one generation, and if
destroyed by the wife or the husband then they will be responsible to
destroy the entire generation.
Satan (Shaytan) loves the most important job, to
create conflicts between the husband and wife. Beware of Allah who is
the controller of all the things, in your life, body and this universe.

Also (forbidden are) women already married, except those (captives and
slaves) whom your right hands possess. Thus has Allâh ordained for
you. All others are lawful, provided you seek (them in marriage) with
Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of
marriage) from your property, desiring chastity, not committing illegal
sexual intercourse, so with those of whom you have enjoyed sexual
relations, give them their Mahr as prescribed; but if after a
Mahr is prescribed, you agree mutually (to give more), there is no
sin on you. Surely, Allâh is Ever AllKnowing, AllWise. (4:24)

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made
one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them)
from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient
(to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence
what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's
property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see illconduct,
admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last)
beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience,
seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allâh is Ever Most
High, Most Great. (4:34) |