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...when you have given
their due Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at
the time of marriage), desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal
wedlock) not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as
girl-friends... (5:5)

Verily, those who like that (the crime of) illegal sexual intercourse
should be propagated among those who believe, they will have a painful
torment in this world and in the Hereafter. And Allâh knows and you know
not. (24:19)
All the boys who are after
girls, what are they going after? To do the illegal things which would
destroy the girl's life, they can use the girl, and call her a
girlfriend, up to the limits, as long as she pleases them, and they can
enjoy her beauty.
And whoever involves,
themselves in these types of activities them because, they are not
followers of Allah, they are the followers of Satan, and they fool all
the girls, use them only for fun, just like buying a doll from the
market; to play with and get rid off.
Satan gives every girl so much
assurance, that he "loves" me only, and he is my "friend", and they wait
from all of his wrong promises, and hopes, so they lose there modesty,
dignity, and they destroy the life of the girl.
Lets examine how the
relationship regarding the keeping of a boyfriend works, see how girls
fool the boy, the same way the way the boy thinks he is smart, and is
the playboy of society.
Each girl gives assurance to
the boy, to bring all of his earnings to her, and to take care of her.
And that she will be his best help, and without her he can't go
anywhere. To keep buying her gifts, and perfumes, luncheons, dinners,
ect. But all of these stories go to all the boyfriends, and the same
lady when she meets other girls, she would tell them how she was fooling
to her boy friends. This misbalances the system of Allah, and it is a
early training for the boy and girl to be misguided.
After the first stage, when
they plan to be married, the whole life stays in doubts, and
misunderstandings, no confidence and not trust. For example, whenever
the husband is late from his work, or from the market, or maybe is
involved in accident, because the lady was involved in this before, she
has experience with it. When she use to hide from her culture and family
and meet other boyfriends, she always would think, that her husband is
also involved with another girl, because he is coming late. And when the
husband reaches home, she blasts, and asks him where he was, and tell
him that she is not a fool. And would say things such as "Stop fooling
me I am sick and tired of you, and i am living in this house like a
jail, I am not your servant, you have made my life miserable."
And this is the end of the
love, and starts towards divorce. Now who is losing us or Allah (SWT)?
If we follow Allah from the
beginning, we would chose the same type of girl, the way we are.
The same thing goes to the
girl, that if she is late from her work for example, and is late to pick
up her bus. Any small excuse will create doubts in the heart of the
husband. And when he starts to doubt his wife, even if she is talking to
his brother, he will think there is something going on, because his eyes
and mind already experienced matters such as this one.
This is the exact reason why
Islam prohibits this, and Islam is a guideline from Allah to the human
being, and he is our Creator and Provider. And is the all knower of our
chemistry. Our bodies' chemistry is based on flesh and blood, whatever
actions are committed in the past, without knowing the punishments,
whoever asks repentance from Allah, and chooses a right practicing
Muslim, then there is no problem in this life. However whoever knows
this, and still has a boy or girl friend, then he or she will be in the
punishment of Allah here, regardless if he lives single or married. And
in there hereafter there is only hell, because this is a major sin,
whoever committed with knowing the punishments, will never be forgiven.

Guide us to the Straight Way

The Way of those on whom You have bestowed Your Grace [], not
(the way) of those who earned Your Anger (such as the Jews), nor of
those who went astray (such as the Christians)
Any action
which is from the enemies of Allah (SWT) and his Prophet, whether we
would call them as "modern", or backwards. It leads towards the hell
fire. Because these people are misguided by Satan, and Satan teaches
them to do things which are against the will of Allah and his prophet,
how can anyone without marriage touch another boy or a girl? This is the
actions of animals, and are not human actions.

These are the limits (set by) Allâh (or ordainments as regards laws of
inheritance), and whosoever obeys Allâh and His Messenger (Muhammad
SAW) will be admitted to Gardens under which rivers flow (in
Paradise), to abide therein, and that will be the great success. (4:13)

If you avoid the great sins[] which you are forbidden to do,
We shall remit from you your (small) sins, and admit you to a Noble
Entrance (i.e. Paradise). (4:31)

Those who avoid great sins (see the Qur'ân, Verses: 6:152,153) and
Al-Fawâhish (illegal sexual intercourse, etc.) except the small
faults, verily, your Lord is of vast forgiveness. He knows you well when
He created you from the earth (Adam), and when you were fetuses in your
mothers' wombs. So ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him
who fears Allâh and keep his duty to Him [i.e. those who are Al-Muttaqûn
(pious - see V.2:2)] (53:32) |